When dealing with conflict I tend to use more of the relationship
orientation. I say this due to the fact that most of my conflicts occur between
people I am close with. I play baseball and on a team there will always be some
type of conflict. How you responded to the conflict is most important and
responding out of anger of something of the sort is never good. Relationship
orientated approaches allow to be demanding but also take other aspects into
consideration. I am able to get “mean”
or demanding but while a mutual respect is still in place between my teammates
and I simply because of our relationship. That also allows for us to be
straight forward and honest enabling us to get straight to the conflict and fix
it. This is why being close with your teammates is very important because if
not then conflict can make everything worse. I am very satisfied when I apply relationship
conflict to my problem solving. No matter how angry or calm I become in a
conflict on my team I always want to use the relationship orientation because of
the mutual respect that is always present.
Hey Southpaw,
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, it was nice of you to share you thoughts and personal experience with they type of orientation that you use to resolve conflict. Just like you, I also use the relationship- centered orientation. I feel that using the relationship- centered orientation is most effective when resolving any form of conflict. Whether the conflict is with a parent, employee, team member or partner. I also agree that it is important to have a mutual understanding and respect for one another. In my experience, using this orientation has usually led to successful resolutions, and always remained harmony in the relationship.
Hi Southpaw,
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed your post. I also use more of a relationship orientation when dealing with conflict. I like how you said that with relationship orientation it allows you to be demanding but take into consideration the other person’s aspect and I would completely agree with you. That is one of the reasons that it works for me when dealing with conflict. I tend to think of the other person and their feelings. Also, I like to avoid conflict so with the relationship orientation it makes it easier to listen to the other person and be in the middle ground when dealing with conflict. Being on a team or in any group will lead to some sort of conflict, so its good to know how to deal with it in a way that works best for you and the others. Great post!