I have lost trust in someone before. It was a very weird
time because at that point I felt I could have given them full trust. When I
was lied to I was more shocked. I told my friend a secret that I didn’t want
anyone else to know. I “knew” I could trust him but I still said “keep it to
yourself”. Other people were then talking to me about this secret and I knew it
was my friend because he was the only one I told. I was in shock and disbelief.
How could someone I gave trust in go behind my back? I did not even confront my
friend about what he had done but what I did was not tell him much of anything
anymore. He was my friend but he was not close enough to where I wanted to have
trust in him anymore. My trust was never fully restored in him but what it has done
is made me more aware of who I want to put my trust in. My trust has been “restored”
in the new people in my life.
SOUTHPAW,
ReplyDeleteI went through a similar situation with one of my friends. It is very disheartening to know that they revealed your secret. I think you did a good job of handling the situation by not revealing anymore information to your friend. In my situation, I thought things were going to get physical, but we were able to talk them out and mend the relationship. It is very hard to deal with something like that when you know that you, yourself wouldn't have revealed the secret. I really value trust and I think that we both handled are situations well.
I can relate very well to this post of yours. It is very weird how if a person loses your trust one time, nothing is ever the same between you two. Its almost as if that person stabbed you in the back and truly hurt you. Its an awkward feeling between you and that person forever. The worst part about it is that once that person loses your trust its almost impossible to want to tell that person anything after. I’ve been in a few different situations similar to this one and it’s the worst. Great post and something that is very easy to relate to.
ReplyDeleteHey Southpaw,
ReplyDeleteLike you, I also had a friend whom I thought I can trust but turns out I couldnt. I hate it when that happens because it makes me think lower of the person and I feel like I could never trust them again. It is easy for me to forgive, but almost impossible for me to forget. Trust is something that is very vital to a friendship. Sometimes I feel that the best person to tell your secrets to is your diary or journal! It’s a good idea to choose friends wisely, but also sometimes it’s worth it to give second chances. I tend to confront people when I hear they broke my trust though. Best to be assertive right?