When it comes to my anger I do my best at expressing it
calmly. I hardly blow up with aggression because I find that to be useless.
When you blow up I feel people are more focused on how you acted then the
actual subject you are blowing up about.
I will admit though that if my anger builds up over time then there is a
possibility I will express it with what people may see as “blowing up” but that
is not a normal action for me. I try to express my anger in a very calm manner
because to me it is very affective. It keeps both parties focused and allows
for both parties to clearly hear what the other person has to say. Just because
it is expressed calmly does not mean that there is no arguing going on. I find
that handling anger in this way makes people think dealing with me is easy but
I can promise that does not mean I am somebody that is easily manipulated.
Southpaw,
ReplyDeleteI feel like you described exactly how I react during anger. Usually, I'm the type of person that can take anything and remain calm to help defuse the situation. However, if I let my anger build up, people will definitely see me have a blow up, once I've had enough. Another time when I let anger get the best of me is if a friend or family member is physically hurt by another party. I feel like there is no reason for this to happen, so I'm a bit of a "hot head". I also believe that staying calm during bouts of anger is one, if not the most important way to handle bouts of anger.
I really liked your second post this week about containing anger and how to express your self. I think that you make many good points about how when you overreact to a situation and “blow up” on someone the attention is no longer on what you are even arguing over; it is about you blowing up. People look at you different if you they see you as someone who gets angry easily and blows up a lot. It is tough to prove to people that you are not an angry person once this happens. But, at the same time you always have to stick up for yourself and sometimes it is hard to keep everything in and not blow up, which actually is really unhealthy; keeping things in that is.
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