Week 11 Reading Reaview #3

The psycho dynamic theory to me is very interesting. Conflict will always have an original point in which it started from. The exact thing that ignites conflict can be found when looking at this theory.  According to the book it talks about how conflict is started based off the interpersonal state in which a person is in. I f a person is in an irritable mood then witnessing a conflict happen to them is going to have high chances. I feel the things in the day can help build someone’s interpersonal state. The more it negatively affects someone then there is a higher chance for a conflict to occur. Although what I personally do not like is when someone who always gets mad or annoyed blames their actions or feelings on everything except themselves.  They always have an excuse for why they had an outburst and never take responsibility for their own actions.

Week 11 Reading Review #2

When in conflict people can tend to make things up that are not true. People can make up things about other people just to make their side of the story seem stronger. Yet false attributions can cause the conflict to worsen. I have been in a conflict and attempted to defend a certain person. In my act of defending I created false attributions about my friend to make him seem like he was in the right. I made these attributions on accident and realized it was the wrong thing to do. The other person involved knew that what I was saying was false and that made him even more mad and honestly gave him the upper hand. My friend lost credibility and settling the conflict was no longer going to be settled in my friends favor because of what I had said. Accurate attributions always help because they are main points to strengthen your argument.  

Week 11 Reading Review #1

When I looked up the word forgiveness it the first few results I found were related to the bible. Forgiveness is a major concept in religions such as Christianity. As I continued to read the results began to focus on how to forgive and the process it takes to do so. Looking up reconciliation produced very different results. It did have results relating to the bible once again but overall the majority was simply describing what the word means. I feel as though this word is difficult to explain and can be misinterpreted. This is why I feel most of the results are just definitions. When looking up the word revenge the results came back completely different from the rest. The results were all about a certain T.V show and other movies or shows with the word revenge in it. I even scanned forward a great amount and still I was coming up with the same results. Forgiveness came up with the most results and feel this way because this word is commonly used.

Week 10 Reading Review #3

One concept from this week was the topic of online communication such as social networking. Facebook is hands down one of the largest online communication outlets that people of all ages go to. It is amazing how fast technology has taken over many aspects of communication. Not just in the business world but it has taken on even deeper characteristics. The characteristics it has taken on are those that you see in face to face communication such as disagreements, arguing and conflict. People can fight over the internet, publicly humiliate people and even “throw punches”. By throwing punches I am talking about people giving out viruses in order to crash sites or steal information. It is a viral “mugging” of people. Technology is on its way to become more and more dominant in the communication world. Hardly have you ever seen a job in communications that do not involve some type of online usage. Technology amazes me.

Week 10 Reading Review #2

At the moment I do not have an event that I find myself not forgiving anyone. I have no problems with the people in my life and I can not complain. I am an extremely forgiving person so it is hard to find a past event to fit this response. I forgive easy but I do not give back the full respect the opposing person once had from me. I have been lied to and heartbroken but can not point out anyone in my life I have never forgiven. I do not think everyone is perfect so you can never expect perfection. I guess my “non-forgiving “manner is me not giving the full respect back the other person once had. I had a good friend who could not keep a personal secret I told him. I did not stay mad at him but our friendship was never the same because I could never bring myself to feel close again to my friend.  

Week 10 Reading Review #1

I am a member of the social networking site called Facebook.  Even though I have a Facebook, just like many others, I do not feel as if I use it like everyone else uses it. I use Facebook more as a way of looking around at what is going on with my friends. I hardly ever hold conversation with my friends on Facebook and I never post anything.  I am not exactly sure how I present myself but because of the lack of things I say or post I assume that I am being judged based off my pictures and what people post on my wall. I have normal pictures and the only person who post on my wall is my girlfriend so maybe people think I am that “relationship” guy but I would be lying if I said I was a relationship guy at all. I hope people get the impression that I am nothing that they find the need to go gossip to their friends about. I don’t want people thinking anything negative and I don’t exactly feel the need to have people know if something exciting has happened to me. I am more of a “to myself” kind of person. I use to have people always saying things on my Facebook that I wish they didn’t let everyone see and that was part of the reason I did not want my mother to be added as my friend. Thankfully that has stopped and I can finally add my mom which makes me happy because she has been nagging me about it for years. Facebook has a downfall to me which is the fact that people can basically say whatever they want even though you may not want them to do such a thing. This relates to communication and conflict because Facebook is a communication tool that is used by millions of people.  It is the definition of communication through technology but what comes with this technology is the lack of privacy. If someone wants to post an embarrassing picture for hundreds of your friends to see it can be done in seconds. This creates a conflict because people have power that is easily abused.

Week 9 Reading Review #3

This week I found the most interesting topic to be about work versus play. Many people complain about having to work and having no time for leisure but most of these people don’t know how to manage the two. When work and leisure are managed correctly you may find that leisure is more available than you think. I like how chapter seven talks about how you need to identify your work and play to better understand your life.  Then you must understand the meaning of play and once you do you can learn to integrate your work and play. Personally my life is all sports and school so naturally I consider my sport as play and school as work. Recently though I am doing my best to find the joy in any aspect of my school and I’m coming to find that there is more play involved in school than I thought. More things are becoming fun and enjoyable which in the end is allowing me to apply more effort in my school work. I feel this new way of going about my school work is helping me achieve better grades and a new outlook on what I find to be work. This may be the most memorable chapter of this semester for me.